What is honesty and integrity? To me honesty is telling the truth, pretty simple. Integrity is the hard one because it is being honest even when it’s not to your advantage. In other words you can’t pick and choose when to be honest. Lying by omission is still lying, as is leading some one to believe something that is not true just buy the way you state the facts.
The white lie is still a lie. If someone ask for your opinion, give it honestly and your reason why you feel that way. You should not worry about hurting some feeling when giving an honest answer. If they get made at you, they shouldn’t have asked the question if they were not ready for an honest answer. I personally never ask a question until I’m ready to hear the answer.
Remember the easiest person to lie to is oneself. Lying and self delusion seem to be our greatest pastime. Can I really afford this house when I’m already up to my I eyeballs in dept. Oh, everything will work out. We delude are selves into believing what ever it is we want instead of facing the facts. To be honest with anyone else you first must be honest with yourself.
Part of having integrity is saying what you mean and meaning what you say. This way when you make a statement the people around you don’t have to decide if you are being honest this time or not. Don’t use confusing language or be purposefully misleading in you statements. The American English language is already confusing enough with out purposefully trying to mislead our audience.
If you realize that something you said is untrue, because your understanding of the facts has change, admit it. Let everyone that’s involved know what happened and your reasoning and move on. We can’t know everything and we must make statements and decisions with what information is at hand.
Just remember, once you are known as a liar and you really need to tell some that the house is on fire and they need to get out they just might not believe you.